Dealing with your child's irritations

Growth spurts bring irritated behaviours. The child goes through many mood swings. During these times, neither your child nor you, know how to handle the new changes in behaviour, changes in moods. Both parents and children tend to become so irate that the family balance can catch fire so quickly, children behave so ridiculously, parents cant understand the reason behind the child's odd behaviour, as they have never dealt that pattern earlier, either of the parents gets frustrated, the other becomes disinterested or demotivated, totally the family is in a bad mood. But, if the parents are prepared to tackle growth spurts, it is not difficult to face these changes. Ofcourse, it is not easy to deal with anything new,the first time but you are prepared if you learn about it ahead.

Children become too active or irate, they cry easily, they get annoyed quickly for no reason, they also tend to be assertive and adamant, as changes in growth stages bring mood swings and behavioural changes too. Studying other children or doing some good research at every stage of parenting is the best solution to handling stress during a child's growth spurts or in dealing with milestone side-effects. Sametime, not every child behaves similarly, hence, parents cant expect the same behaviour with every child of their own or in comparison to other's children. Avoiding comparisons and forcing your child to behave the same way as your friend's 'so-called well-behaved' super kid is, definitely, not the right thing to do.

Understand that our children face many challenges while growing. Sometimes, parents cant understand what they speak, how they feel, what they want...imagine what level of frustration an adult goes through if we are in their shoes. Understanding the challenges the child faces and pushing forward peacfully is the right attitude. Dont be annoyed at your child, dont expect your child to adjust to your requirements, always. Put yourselves in their shoes and imagine. Very soon, even your naughty irate toddler who irritated you badly, an hour ago, will say, 'you are my best friend' and it will make your life look so 'Beautiful' and 'Stress-free'.

- Prathyusha Talluri