Dad, it's OK!!
We often tend to misunderstand the very own purpose of celebrations; special days like father's day which comes on 3rd Sunday of June is one among those festivals .Have anyone thought for a while before buying gifts, flowers, cakes for this day? Perhaps not.. At least have you ever tried to understand what it means to the person when you celebrate certain days for mothers, fathers, grandparents without even knowing or understanding their feelings.
Changing economy, enhanced lifestyle together pushing us towards a culture which may not be ours However, if any act can bring smile on your loved one's face, its worth taking such turns. Father's day surely deserves a grand celebration, when we all come together to acknowledge the importance of the role Father holds, in upbringing a family in every aspect. For ages, father has been pillar of strength to the family system. Extending social protection and being a financial support was his major role.. But off late ,the situations have been changed drastically. along with mother, father has to play a dual role of feeding them, put them on right track and of course pamper them and nurture them. Now we have many fathers in our society who are mothering their children gracefully yet have loads of passion in adopting to new ways to connect with their kids to strengthen the bond with their kids. Some of them are best chefs, best fashion designers, best therapists for their children, above all very approachable for the child at the time of need. No wonder, it’s a fact that this generation kids are more attached to fathers and willing to share their personal talks with papas than moms. However,ability to multitask is an asset for women but this should not be taxing men so much; when Father is very good with kids at home, he is the best in baking a cakes have ears to listen to them, doesn't mean that we go on raising our expectations on role of father in family. Instead, allow him to do these things as a choice.
Have you ever imagined a situation, where father would say that, he's got bored and tired of working and earning for the family, hence contemplating to take sabbatical..?? Sounds weird..right? When we have so many preconceived notions about a Father's role in a family, why can't we adopt the same formula of removing some, and let him be just a dad?.. Well, you all must be thinking what if mom is also working? What's wrong in sharing the responsibility? Yes, definitely not at all wrong if you both agreed on helping mutually.
He need not do it to prove his love for kids. He definitely need not please his family members, just by stretching himself. We must understand that family is the only reason for him to keep going.
“Dad, we don't expect you to get our homework done, we don't want you to stretch yourself to get our things intact, we don't mind if you are tired and asleep when we take our school bus , and dad, its absolutely OK if you can't join us for my birthday shopping. From the bottom of our heart, we all know that, every day and night you are working for us thinking about our future.
On this special day, if you are dad's child, it's OK if you can't buy him a gift, its fine if you cant wish him with a greeting card....but gift him the unconditional love that he Deserves,,…
Happy fathers day!!
Bhavana