If other satisfying caresses can be used quite freely, the advantage of mouth-to-male-genital play is not sufficient to justify the prolonged and expensive psychologic counselling required to trace back and eradicate intensive inhibitions against it. Logically speaking, however, it seems obvious that a wife who brings her husband extra and special gratifications deserves more respect as a woman rather than less. Any husband who desires this type of play must find means of stimulating his wife which continues her build-up of excitement.

Since the wife's breasts are out of her husband's reach during this form of play and odour has almost always advanced to point where peripheral caress is inadequatem this usually means continuous stimulation of her genitals with the techiniques described in the next section. If these conditions are met, kissing and other forms of mouth stimulation of the penis often contribute substantial emotional build-up.

Light kisses and gentle titillation with the tongue prove most effective when concentra- ted on the shaft of the penis or at the margin of its head. The head itself has no nerves which respond to light touch, and the scrotal area is not apt for such caresses. Placing the lips in light contract with the penis, the blowing to produce rapid vibration of their loose tissues gives a unique sensation.

If you feel inclined to take the penis into your mouth and stimulate it with tongue move- ments or by making the lips and inside of the cheeks move against it through air pressures or suction, no harm will be done so long as these stimulations are gentle and are frequently interrupted for other forms of caress. Continuous or intensive stimulations of these kinds can cause a climax and rob you of the ultimate satisfaction of intercourse. Ordinarily however, you only undertake these stimulations when both of you are suspended on a high plane of ecstatic excitement where gentle and continuour caress sustains your state without further build-up, and reciprocal fondling of the genitals with hands, mouth, and tongue prolong a delightful preliminary without in any way curbing ultimate fruition.