We are now ready to go more deeply into the subject of sex differences between men and women - into human sexuality. Sexuality means more than sex. It means all that goes with being a man or being a woman. It means a person's sexual nature. Authorities who have studied sex differences do not agree on the extent to which they are inborn or are created by the environ- ment, that is, the society we live in. Before we think about differences between men and women, we should remember that there are atleast two great similarities:
First, as human beings, we are much more like each other than we are like any other animal or either sex. We speak and write language, we think complicated thoughts, we can remem- ber the past and project ourselves into the future, we have imigination, we enjoy planning and loving and seeing ourselves as parts of the universe. Both male and female human beings are self-conscious and other-conscious in ways that no other animals are.
And the second great similarity is physical: Again as human beings, both men and women can enjoy varieties of sexual activity and the ultimate sexual pleasure of orgasm with a degree of conscious awareness that animals, as far as we know, do not have. As for the differen- ces, when we compare the sexuality of men and women, it is important to remember that a woman is more than just a non-man, and a man is more than just a non- woman, and that every woman is different from every other woman, and every man different from every other man.
Sexuality in Men :- When a boy has matured sexually, the sexual thoughts in his mind and feelings in his body are quite definite and strong. They may be aroused ata any time and rather quickly, and the arousal may be quite involuntary. The physical feelings are strongest in his penis and may sometimes make him desire an ejaculation. However, most erections end without ejaculation. As boys grow up, many of them come to understand that a sexual experience like intercourse is not something to be sought lightly or selfishly. When it is part of an expression of tenderness and caring, it can be a deeply stirring experience. Boys and men can combine their intelligence, their emotions, and their sexuality to help create relationships based on love, understanding, and caring. Girls can, too. Sexuality in Women :- A woman's sexuality tends to be somewhat different from a man's. Generally her sexual feelings are stirred more slowly, less often, and less sharply than those of men. However, once aroused, her feelings are very powerful and very pleasurable. For a woman, sex is usually a response to love or to a romantic feeling in addition to specific excitation. Also, it is a way to express her love. But she expresses it in many ways besides intercourse.
Thus, women want intercourse less at some times than at others, yet it is expecially important to most of them always to give and receive love and affection as a part of lovemaking. The sexual nature of women helps to make them understanding, considerate, and affectionate, and it is a great force in creating deep and satisfying human relationships. The sexual nature of men can well do the same. Too often a man thinks that a woman reacts - or should react - just as he does; and a woman does not understand the speed and power of a man's reaction.
Understanding their sexual differences and lovingly considering them will help a man and a woman to be happy together. Many years ago it was widely thought that men were supposed to enjoy sex and women were supposed to endure it. There are still some people who believe a woman is not quite 'nice' if she really enjoys sex. But ever since the 1920s people have come increasingly that a man does to a woman or that a woman does for a man. A woman's orgasm is as strong and definite and exciting as a man's ejaculation, and may be even more so. Also, her orgasm may last longer than a man's and she may have several orgasms in rather quick succession, which a man cannot have. Intercourse at its best is a mutual exchange of pleasure.