" Men's Day In a Women's Way"
"They can never have patience in our shopping neither they can shop well"
"Multi tasking is a BIG task which they cant even think of"
"They can neither understand our feeling nor express theirs"
"Its as if Forgetfulness is their birth right,from their medicines to, switching off the light behind them to the important days of our lives ,they forget every thing so conveniently."..."for gods sake they cant even pick good vegetables...what can we expect from them?" "The only think they have in Tons is their EGO."
This is how a normal Indian women reacts when asked about the man of her life,and men in general. Hey ladies!! did you ever think for a minute as to why they are like that? is it their real lethargic attitude? or some thing else beyond that??
A famous quote says "A man who treats his woman like a princess is proof that he has been born and raised in the arms of a queen."this simple statement tells you that what ever men are they are the products of a women at various stages of life. So if you have any complaints with a man,first complain the women behind him, the mother or the wife.
First tings first, think about the mother.
She brings him up like a Raja of her life,with all amenities around him and with no work to be told,because he is a boy. Now, how can you expect him to learn to do things even as small as like buying vegetables immediately after your marriage ?? Ok now i know you will say you have given ample time to him to learn, still he doesn't why? Do you remember if you have ever appreciated him for any of his shopping efforts ? No. You have problem with anything and every thing he buys,from vegetables to gifts to gold, you can Never say,"good job!!" Leave alone shopping you cant even appreciate his surprises for that matter. And after all this, how and why should he have patience in a thing which he hates so much??
Secondly - Multi Tasking ..
Scientists have already found that the female brain is ‘hard-wired’ to be better at multitasking.Men’s brains, in comparison, are better at concentrating on single complex tasks – whether it be reading a map or cooking a meal. ‘The research shows that if women and men are given a task that involves both logical thinking and intuitive thinking, women will do it better – they are better at connecting the left and the right sides of the brain, but ‘If you have an instant action to be performed and you need to do it now, male brains are more attuned to it because the front-back action is more intensely connected .So when its already proved, why to expect a fish to climb a tree, and men to multi task??
Third: They can’t read emotions !!
Yes they cant coz yet again it was scientifically proved that they cant. New research has proven what many men the world over have already discovered to their chagrin - that they simply do not know what women are feeling just by seeing into their eyes,they need an expression to it.
The study published by the Public Library of Science (PLOS One) earlier, found that men had twice as much trouble understanding women's emotions from their eyes as those of other men.
Compounding this, the researchers found that the part of the male brain linked to emotion was not as active when men looked at women's eyes - indicating a hard-wired biological lack of understanding for what women feel through their eyes. So express your feeling through words and then see how it works wonders, rather than waiting for your man to understand them on his own.
Last but not the least , “ Why do men forget things and dates??”
From primitive times of hunting dangerously and defending the homestead from marauding tribes to today’s getting that promotion and ensuring that some one else from sales doesn't get it,a man who forgets an anniversary or birthday is not being cruel or deliberately hurtful,especially if other aspects of the relationship are sound. He is just disconnected from the personal realm by his focus on the external realm. Men can become so focused on things outside of the relationship - work, sport, hobbies/interests that they become "blind" to everything else.SO this too is not his fault.
So finally its NOT men’s fault or EGO at all, its just that ladies need to understand that they don’t do things intentionally. There is a cause behind every move, don’t complain about not getting a perfect man, make one if you can…Happy Good men’s day!!