Some couples find that caresses of the female genitals with the lips or tongue bring exquisite gratification to the wife and are in no way objectionable to the husband. Such caresses are only appropriate if both partners are throughly convinced (not only in their heads but in there hearts) that no perversion is involved.

Mouth-to genetial play gives satisfaction only after several months of sexually successful marriage, because sensitivity does not spread from the clitoris to the inner lips and surface tissues until many sexual satis- fying episodes have linked stimulation of these areas with emotional response. Both partners need to be firmly in the grip of passion before commenc- ing mouth-to genital play, the man because the female organs only become attractive objects of such intimacy when his primitive instincts have been fully aroused, and the woman because it takes ardour generated swelling of the inner lips to bring highly sensitive structures within range of easy stimulation.

If you can meet these conditions, and if your wife welcomes such attentions with sufficient enthusiasm that her reciprocal caresses maintain your excitement, a number of mouth-to female-organ caresses might prove gratifying. Draw one or both outer lips aside with your fingers, to expose the linner lips and the smooth, moist tissues of the feminine orifice to easy caress.

Most husbands find that gentle brushing kisses or tongue-lip stimulation of these structures proves exquisitely pleasing to their wives. You can cause keen stimulation by placing relaxed lips into contact with a highly sensitive area such as the inner lips, then blowing in such a way that your lips vibrate against the sensitive tissues. The inner lips can be gripped between the husband's lips so that side-to-side motion of the lower jaw or titillation with the tongue stimulates them keenly. Or a protruded tongue can be rubbed against the inner lips in various directions, with varying degrees of firmness, and in varying rhythms.

Like most intensive genital caresses, these give the greatest gratification when aimed at long- continued transpott on a plateau of keen excitement, with deliberate tapering to milder caress whenever orgaasm seems about to obtrude. If feminine orgasm does not result from these ministrations, however, it can be treated as one of the foothills, not the main mountain. If the wife continues to stimulate her husband and maintain his excitement, a new succession of caresses will usually bring her to a state of keen sexual excitement again in a very short time, and the keen climax of a final, intercourse generated orgasm will write a perfectly proper 'finis' to the episode.

Incidentally a husband's saliva may contain germs which cause itching of soreness of the vulva a day or two mouth-to genetal play. Similar problems may develop from use of saliva as a lubricant in other forms of genital caress. Intermittent mouth and manual caress of the breast may soil the fingers with saliva which later is transferred to the female organs by genetial caress. More-severe of protracted infection may tip the balance against mouth-to-genital caress and make worthwhile various precautions against transfer of saliva by way of the husband's hands to the genital zone.