I guess it would be called that, a "fear of sex," lol. I've just been reading up on that today...after a horrible episode with my boyfriend (hopefully not "former" yet, but I don't know yet). Here's the scenrario--one that has happened to me with at least 4 or 5 guys over the past 8 years or so: We get intimate, (do the whole "high school" sex with clothes on thing), then get ready for the real deal and I get sooo scared! I think my fear is multifold:
fear of them seeing my body (I'm very little), fear of not being hygenic enough (though I don't smell and never had complaints...maybe I just don't know what the "normal" odor is or something), and fear of pain. In all the times I've tried to have sex, the pain is EXTREME. (This extends to papsmeres as well.) I just tense up BIG time and cannot seem to relax enough to go through with it.
According to my doctor, it's some kind of mental block I get. She just suggested I get more com- fortable with having my legs open by doing things like using tampons insted of pads, etc. Though I have not exactly taken her advice on that yet, I know that even without doing that, my fear is abnormal and it's paralyzing my life. In fact, most of my relationships have ended largely because of this. I sooo don't want this to be the case now. I'm 27 (yes that old still going through this) and sooo ready to move forward. At this rate, it feels like marriage and kids and the whole nine will be but a distant dream. Lest I find a solution... Any help is appreciated.