Assistance Lure :-
Another very compelling lure used by molesters is asking the child for help. Requests can include directions to a popular landmark, or assistance in carrying an armload packages to the car or house. In 1983, a Colorado man was convicted sexually assaulting six girls, using the ruse that he needed help in finding his lost dog. Prevention :- Tell your child that adults should ask other adults for directions or help. If anyone stops to ask direction, your child should move out of reach and be ready to run and scream for help.
Bribery Lure :-
The age-old lure, bribery, still works. Youngsters may be offered sweets, toys and other rewards. Teenagers are lured with radio or cassette headsets or bicycles. A California man was convicted of molesting two neighbourhood boys who had asked for permission to swim in a pond on his property. The boys were molested by the man after he had persuaded them to take off their bathing suits in exchange for a chocolate bar.
Prevention : The traditional caution still applies, tell your children not to accept gifts from a stranger and to tell you if such an offer has been made. Be alert to new toys or money you can't account for, ask where the items came from.
Ego/Fame Lure :-
Children may be promised a modelling job or the chance to compete in a beauty contest. They are offered a private audition and often told to keep it secret from Mum and Dad. Alison Parrott, an 11-year old star athlete who lived in Toronto was excited when she called her mother to ask permission to meet a man for a photo session. The man had said he was a photographer for a local paper. He proposed that she meet him immediately. Allison's mother was also excited as she gave permission. Alison's body was found two days later in a part. She reportedly hand been sexually assualted and strangled.
Prevention : Accompany your child on his talent pursuits and check the credentials of “talent scouts''. Stress the importance of keeping no secrets-and why.
Emergency Lure :-
The emergency lure is designed to disarm, confuse and worry the child. Some examples “your Mummy is sick and was taken to the hospital. Come with me.'' “Your house is on fire and your mother is locked out. Do you have a key? Hurry''
Prevention: Pre-arrange a plan of action with your child. Stress the following : never go with a stranger. Either call or hurry home yourself to verify that there is an emergency. If uncertain, seek help from relatives, friends or neighbours.
Fund And Games Lure :-
Here, seemingly innocent play leads to intimate body contact. Games might include tickling, wrestling, hiding the coin, or hiding under a cover.
Prevention : Teach your children the difference between a “good touch'' and a “bad touch''. So they'll recognize when a “game'' isn't any more. And common sense should tell parents something is wrong when an adult consistently singles out a child for a playmate.
Magic and Rituals Lure :-
A growing number of children have been enticed into physical and psychological rituals that culminate in sexaul abuse. Magic nd rituals fascinate and brainwash the child into a consenting association, leading to repeated abuse.
Prevention : Discuss the concepts of good and evil at a very early age, so your children are not confused by those who try to mislead them. Be inquisitive if your child begins to reject basic social values, family, country and established religious beliefs. Probe as to how, when and why these adult-like opinions were formulated. Become vigilantly attentive if your child suffers frequent nightmares or lapses into prolonged periods of silence. Be especially concerned if your child becomes absorbed in horror films or publications about the occult.
Pornography Lure :-
In 1987, Richard Bennet was sentenced to eight to 30 years of multiple sexual assaults on one youth. While working at a ski resort, Bennett befriended the boy. He used pornographic magazines and videos to sexually arouse his victim and destroy his inhibitions. Prevention : Keep your home free of all forms of pornography, no matter how harmless a magazine or video might seem- so as not to legitimize this lure.
Heroes Lure :-
A recurring theme in sex abuse is the molester who poses as a childhood hero. Several years ago a Las Vegas sweet-shop owner invited children into his home for a Christmas party. Dressed as Santa Claus, he molested one of the girls.
Prevention: Explain that bad people sometimes try to trick children. Real heroes would never use their fame to harm children, Instruct your child never to co-operate with such a person, but to tell you and the authorities immediately.
Jobs Lure :-
Adolescents, in particular, can be attracted by the promise of a high-paying or interesting job. Interviews for these jobs are often held in secluded locations and are advertised with only a post-office box number. John Gacy, Jr. who killed 33 young men in Chicago, was sentenced to death. Gacy's most effective lure was offering jobs to male teenagers. If the boy brought a parent along to Gacy's home, there was a pleasant interview ending with a vague promise of future employment: Boys who came alone never left: they were told they could start work in a few days, and then Gacy would immediately mention a trick with rope or handcuffs he wanted to demonstrate. The boys not wanting to offend their new employer, would co-operate in the trick, thus sealing their fate.
Prevention : Explain to your child why it is important for you to go along on a job interview, particularly if it is in an unusual location. Simply telling your job-seeking youngster about this lure should put him on her on alert.