Some years ago my teenage daughter's car broke down and she began walking along a highway in broad daylight. A car with two men stopped. One flashed a badge and claimed to be a detective. “Climb in'', he said offering help, But when she saw dirty clothes in the rear seat, she became suspicious and backed away. The men sped off. They were later arrested for posing as policemen and for raping young women. My daughter saved herself with her instincts, common sense and quick action. But each year thousands of children are less fortunate. As a concerned parent, I set out, after the attempted abduction of my daughter, to develop a comprehensive programme to help prevent sexual molestation of children.
The programme is based on years of research, including interview with hundreds of convicted child molesters, pimps and murderers – who revealed the lures they used to entice their victims. Sex lutes fall into a number of categories. Knowledge of them is so basic to child's safety that they should be taught – indeed must be taught – by every parent. Following each lure is the recommended preventive measure.
Affection/Love Lure :- Most people think a molester is a sleazy character, a stranger lurking near a schoolyard, luring children with sweets. On the contrary, 75 to 85 percent of sex crimes against children are committed by some one the child knows, loves or trusts, says David Finkelhor,. Some 45 per cent are relatives – fathers, brothers, uncles, another 30-40 percent are acquaintances – baby sitters, teachers, clergymen, doctors. Prevention :- Question the motive of any adult – even a family member – who seems highly interested in your kids and wants to spend a lot of time alone with them, especially overnight. Rely heavily on your instincts. Monitor and participate in your child's activities in youth groups, summer camps and the like. And stress to your child the importance of telling you about any improper advances made by others. Children from unhappy homes are easy targets. Molesters say these children are so starved for affection, they are easy to seduce. If your children tells you she has been sexually abused (comments may include :He's been fooling around with me'' or “I don't like to be alone with my father), believe her, Experts say children rarely lie about sexual molestation.