Most women hesitate to caress the male genitals early in a sexual incident for fear of either speeding the incident beyond their capacity to keep up or of committing themselves to continuous similar caresses. Actually, a brief flurry of genital caresses early in sex play often produces new interest and variety and virtually never creates any problems. A clutching caress of the penis through a layer of pyjamas or clothes, gentle stroking of the scrotum and upper thigh, or exploration of the genital zone with titillating finger tips generally proves stimulating and exciting at the beginning of sex play or almost any these measures with keen emotion and with reciprocal : cares, from which his wife daws substantial rewards of her own.
Genital caresses used in this way, often before the penis has become erect and fully sensitive, can be compared to the caresses of his wife's breast which a husband might give through clothing at an early stage in sex play. They indcate ardent interest, they inspire erotic response, but they do not instantly carry either partner to the state of excitement usually associated with caresses of this part of the body and do not necessitate continuous intensive caress for the remainder of the incident.
Genital fondling after excitement has built to the point of full preparations for intercourse fulfils an entirely different role and operates under different tules. Instinct, unmodified by sexual technique, impels the male towards almost instant sexually entrance after ardour has made the penis firmly erect. Most men can only maintain a full, solid erection for two or three minutes without some form of genital stimulations. In instinct- governed intercourse, this stimulation comes from sexual entrance.
If either or both parties want to delay sexual entrance more than a minute or two after the male achieves full erection some form of genital stimulation must be provided or else male excitement will begin to fade, causing at best an incident in which both parties receive less than their due because of poor quality erection and diminished response, and at worse a sexual fiasco. However, the period of sex paly can be prolonged, sexual excitement, built to great heights for both partners, sustains male excitement.
A woman can contribute more to her own and to her husband's sexual gratitication through sex-play-prolonging genital caresses than by any other sex technique either before, during,or after intercourse. Such caresses must begin within a minute or two of full erection, and must be virtually continuous in order to sustain male excitement. However, they can take a wide variety of forms.